Wednesday, August 5, 2009

A Tribute to All Brothers



Today I am going to tell you about another Indian tradition/festival.

"Rakshabandhan"

(translates to A Bond of Protection). On this day, Sisters tie Rakhi (think of this as a Friendship Band) to their brothers. They get dressed, cook for their brothers, feed them their favorite sweets/candy and in return the brothers promise to protect and nurture their sisters. The tradition has been going on for thousands of years. In 16th century India, wars have been abandoned because the Queen sent "Rakhi" to the opponent thus making him her "Brother". Today young girls enjoy "gifts" from their brothers as a token of their love.

I am calling it "Brother's Day".

In my opinion the bond between a brother and sister is the purest form of a relationship between a man and a woman. So why am I telling you this today? Because it IS that day today! On this day I am reminded of my childhood, looking forward to rakshabandhan as the day where it'll all be about me and when I'll receive lots of gifts from my brothers. And it's not just my own brother. It's cousins too! So you can see why sisters would look forward to this. The young boys would hate it! Because its the day when they get "nothing" and all the gifts are for the sisters. So we started buying some small gifts for them too! But nothing compared to what the girls would get :)

Gift giving aside, for me, it's a reminder of the fact how blessed I am to have not one but three very loving brothers who would be there for me at the drop of a hat should I need them. Three brothers who although are much younger than me, would do anything for me. A reminder of how much fun we had growing up. The pranks we played, the innumerable fights we had and the secrets we kept. Not to mention the shoulders we cried on...

And being thousands of miles away from them is as hard as it gets, as you can imagine. So, as I was sending my Rakhi in mail the other day, the vibrant colors of the rakhi inpsired me to share this with you and I snapped a picture. The red colored powder is called "Roli". Its mixed with water to create a thick paste and is used to mark a "Tilak" more like an elongated "Bindi" on the brother's forehead. The rice is then stuck to the tilak. It's all very divine and beautiful!

Here are some photos from 2007 when I was in India for Rakshabandhan.















The lovely woman in the background is my grandma!


Happy Rakshabandhan to everyone who celebrates it and to all those who don't, pick up that phone and call your brother or sister and tell them how much they mean to you. Life's too short not to!

13 comments:

Rose said...

What a wonderful celebration! Thanks for sharing.

window dressing said...

What a beautiful tradition!!! You are truly blessed and it is evident that you cherish your family.

The last sentence of your post is very true and it is very important that we learn to express how very important certain people are in our lives.

mochimo said...

It's a beautiful tradition! Unfortunately I don't have any brothers (nor sisters). But you inspired me to get in touch more with my cousins, at least. They live so close and I just see them once a year...

Ann's Fashion Studio said...

Lovely pictures,Thank you sharing them.

RiAnge Creations. Ltd. said...

This is wonderful. I have three brothers as well. And I do cherish them. Perhaps, I will make their favourite sweets.
Angela

Ann said...

You look stunning in your Sari.

Ram said...

Dear Deepika,
The parents also look forward to this day as they feel extremely blessed when they see their Children tie that friendship knot amongst themselves which assures them that the Brothers would rise to the occassion(If and when that arises).Further the children move this wheel forward for the next generation.
God Bless All
Papa

Annika said...

Deepika,
it is a beautiful tradition. I've been blessed with 2 older brothers both of whom I cherish. Rakshabandhan makes me realize that bond; for many of us our siblings are the only people who have known us all our lives and whose life spans are very close to ours. They ride this life along side of us.

Deepika said...

Thanks Ann!

Annika, so true. My cousin in the first picture (who I literally grew up with) sent me a really nice perfume as my Rakshabandhan gift yesterday!

Anonymous said...

Deepika, Thank you for shaing this with us. An Indian friend explained this tradition to me when I inquired about his bracelet. Whenever I see a man with one, it makes me smile.

Although we don't have such a tradition in our family, your story reminded me how much I chreish my brothers (and sisters) and how our closeness would bring tears to my Dad's eyes when he saw us all together.

Thanks you for sharing!
NEDayNow

Nelesc said...

Thank you so much for teaching me about this tradition. How beautiful and pure!I have been silently following your blog for quite some time now. i love it. This post compelled me to say something!

Jos said...

Thanks for sharing this wonderful tradition!

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